Yesterday I saw a short film “The Dinner” on You Tube. It basically revolves round a conversation over dinner.
A soon to be married couple is invited over by an already married couple , for dinner. When they are having dinner, there is an interview of an author on TV who recently wrote a book on finding love outside marriage. So a discussion starts between them regarding this.
Eventually into the discussion, two groups are formed.. one which thinks that freedom, change and open mindedness is important in any relationship and if open marriages can provide it, then why not. The other group is of the opinion that commitment is first and foremost.
The end of the movie is that the couple to be married calls it quits because they have totally different views about marriage and relationship.
What I don’t understand is finding love outside a relationship. Such topics damage the very pillars of a love, trust, loyalty and faith on which relationships are established. Is that what is the purpose of such short films or movies. You call me orthodox, but I don’t care. Such concepts actually pain my heart. What do they actually try to portray. On a platform like TV or You Tube, is it ethically correct to advocate concepts like open marriages or relationships, spouse/partner swaps. How valid is the justification that these concepts take out the monotony of a relationship. Have all the other methods of making a relation exciting exhausted.
Isn’t the concept of having sexual relations outside your own relationship, for the benefit of your own relationship a lame concept. It is understandable that couples now openly acknowledge the importance of sexual activity in any relationship. I say why not!!. But how fair is it to be sexually involved with somebody else if you are not satisfied in your relationship. Why not invent ways to spice up your own relationship.
And what about commitment!!!! Will this concepts continue to exist in future or relationships will only be based on benefits. You are not bored by your same old selves over the years. So why get bored with your partners/spouses.. your other halves… or as they say your better halves.Commitment is accepting your lover with all of his/her flaws.. and contributing together towards a happy relationship.
Of course, it’s not easy, especially in today’s time when so many concepts are readily available to adulterate one’s mind. But it is worth the try and efforts. It is nurturing and satisfying in its own way. These small stints here are there are nothing but bumps on the happiest and fulfilling road of commitment.